Next I called my wife. And if it was an accident, why did she give them details about what kinks you have? It sounds more like it's a matter of comfort and trust. How many people knew about it since she let it slip, considering she's telling the truth and it was only two years ago that she told somebody. Clearly and simply. Yeah, I'm a married woman. I am not straight, nor am I gay. As for your wife - I think her feelings are understandable even if her actions were insensitive. Book an appointment with a therapist, maybe meet up with the one friend who called you, and after a couple of days reassess whether or not you want to try to make things work. And I've faced this with my family-- I shut that crap down with a quickness. That's the truth. This given that she initiates the sex games, and probably will never admit to friends that she enjoys them as a kink to keep the bedroom alive and hot. You and your wife decided to marry each other. Thats punishment enough for some. It sounds like you're discovering a side of your wife you didn't know about. She's betrayed you. I'd be crushed if I heard my wife's friend's say something like that, and then she just hangs me out to dry instead of standing up for me. Not to mention she outed him and didn't even come clean and let him know, instead allowed the jokes to flow for a couple years - that's pretty unforgivable. The fact she cares more about her homophobic friends opinions of her than her relationship with her partner says a lot. Life is great and were very blessed. Try marriage counseling and perhaps moving away for a new start. Doesnt make it right. If a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty. She put you down at your own house. She stopped criticizing after that. Prepare to be known as 'that guy who is really sensitive about his sexuality". Be honest anyway. I could only imagine how crap you feel right now. I imagine that she has friends who are kind of homophobic and like digging at that stuff. I'm wondering if your lack of fighting in your communication may be related to her not being open and honest with you as you are with her. Do good anyway. A random guy you barely know has stuck more by you tonight than your own wife does on the regular. OP-the one man who reached out to you, I feel he is a solid individual and have to give You major points to talking with him. you'd be shocked but how many wives/girlfriends go into detail about their sex lives with their friends. she also choose to make fun of you to her friends instead of standing up for you. you need to think long and hard about if you think you can ever trust her again. There is nothing wrong with you. But I also feel like it's a betrayal you can come back from. Your wife probably didn't want to admit in front of her friends that she likes that you're into butt stuff and initiates most of the time. About number 2, she's lying and trying to back pedal. Implying that OP's "flaw" as husband material is because he not 100% straight and slept with men is homophobic. Beer runs out so I head inside to grab more. This has big sad middle America vibes or something. If she isn't willing to do both of those things, then she is proving she doesn't value you enough, or is sorry enough for the damage she's caused, to be worth staying with. Couples counseling may help rebuild trust. Shows you don't accept their judgemental BS. It sounds like shes remorseful. Dude, I am so sorry. I think it wouldve been different if maybe she had some concerns and needed someone to confide in about it, but she shouldve never allowed them to speak about you that way. Shes married to a bi man, and her idiot friends shouldnt have the power to make her feel bad about it. Your partner in crime fucked up. she can claim she doesnt mean it all she wants but that will not change the fact she said it and then didnt defend you when things got ugly. You pave the way for us, and I appreciate you tons. Then, when I was in the bathroom (just outside of their bedroom door), I could hear them talking about me. Even if it is a stay vacation somewhere near your home. Women talk shit to each other just as much as men do. Your wife have no sense of conjugality. i would like to add a partner should never ever make you feel ashamed or embarrassed about your sexuality. Honor every feeling, but don't become paralysed by them. But she's obviously done it before - all her friends knew it was okay to discuss and laugh about while she joked about letting him do "gay" stuff while she fantasies about other men. Come on, you're not 19 anymore. That's a MASSIVE breach of trust and decency, while you want to make it about him snooping? I'm glad she apologized. OK she was drunk and your sexuality came out in a stupid moment. I'd be more open about your sexuality; if you've nothing to hide then the nasty wives have nothing to attack. Her calling it bi shit, begrudgingly doing it, thinking of someone else. Just the circles I run in a guess. She buys all kinds of outfits and toys without me even suggesting it! Especially when it all seems to have been going well. Let her know how betrayed you feel. Whatre you guys laughing about? I ask with a smile playing stupid. Highlight the fact that obviously the buck didn't stop with her friends as at least one of their husbands know. As for your wifes friends, if they feel that strongly about your sexual preferences, then fuck em too! Hopefully, she falls into a better crowd that is modern and accepting. Her voice was strained and raspy. Chin up man. A Young Boy Hires Prostitute For One Hour 42:46. I agree though it does sound like she started the mocking of his sexuality. Agreed! Right now is the time for your wife to stand by you. I'm getting angry just sitting here cause I've personally witnessed this so many times. I'm not saying she will, I don't know her and can't make that call. Divorce may be an end result. It was a low blow, but fuck that shit. You both need to get in front of a good counselors and dig in. Well he's not open about being bi so I'm pretty sure he does care about it. Will take her out to nice places, and buy her stuff. Im in a similar, but much weirder, relationship (Im actually gay and married to a straight woman, we have an open marriage for our sex life, and a great family home life). In our response, lies our growth and our freedom. Add on the fact that her friends were telling her that Tom was in town - thats another reason she needs to drop the problematic friends. "My. The trust cannot be restored and it would be better to separate for now. I'm sorry you went through this. They honestly seem jealous if they care that much about what you enjoy sexually. She more than likely enjoys your sex life and marriage, but is ashamed at how her friends make her feel, and used you as an outlet. I live in a fairly large Canadian metropolitan area, most guys I know and hang out with are even a little bi. This is tough, because you're obviously going through it and I'm sorry you are hurt, very truly. Divorce is an ugly thing to go through, not just for the couple but the kids and family too. Fucking judgemental pieces of shit. She tells my wife that Tom is still handsome as ever (this doesnt bother me, I feel im just as good looking) and they all give a little chuckle before my wife says something that floored me.Tom had reached out to her right before we got married and wanted her to get back together with him. But it sounds like maybe those are friends of hers she should reconsider her position with. I could give the benefit of the double and believe she fakes the homophobic/biphobic stuff for her friends. You don't have to let it go. Oh buddy, I'm sorry you've had this happen to you. The good you do today maybe forgotten tomorrow. This friend is in a serious relationship," he kicked off the contenscious post. You are joke to your wife she have no respect for you at all. The slider to the patio from the kitchen is open. This is what I found out: She let my sexuality slip two years ago at a bachelorette party to her friends when she was completely shit faced and didnt remember till one of the girls made a joke about it and she freaked out and made them swear to never tell anyone she told them cause she knew how upset Id be. Remind her of this without judging. 3) Gossiping about your private life and using it as entertainment for her friends is a huge betrayal. It's human nature. Let's give your wife the benefit of the doubt for a moment. We have been married for more than 10 years and have . It very much is and if you let them gaslight you and suppress how you actually feel, you will feel a huge burden and trust issues for the rest of your life. Picking that moment to be the center of attention? How long has she been friends with them? This is now twice that she has blabbed something intensely personal while intoxicatedthat you know about. This is not helpful but wow. The sheer betrayal of trust is breathtakingly awful. For that reason I would agree that you guys should talk about, counseling, or like I said, you reconsidering the relationship. Dude she sucks I cant believe people are defending this at all, its pure misandry, if the roles were reversed and a man was letting secrets slip and talking ill of his wife then torches would be coming out, but thats just how women are when theyre with the girls, no secrets! Fuck all that haha, that is so disrespectful. I think you handled that really well. People can be so two-faced with that kind of thing. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Personal details should remain private. Sorry bro, no words. I heard their conversation. Divorce. Theres people that will truly respect you and love you the right way. If my bf were you, I'd imagine he would do the same exact thing. Your wife betrayed your trust, and knowingly let her friends make homophobic comments. Kidding aside. So no being friends with intolerant halfwits, and no more alcohol. If they outed me and mocked our sex life with their friends, I would never be able to be intimate with them again. I'm sorry. It doesn't matter if her friends judge her for things - she needs to stand up for you as her husband. Im so sorry, my jaw hit the floor reading this. Im so sorry this happened. You should seek marriage counseling after this. Dont just accept her apology and move on. Life is transient. Wife: " (my name) I dunno what your heard but it's not what" Me: " (wifes name) I know exactly what I heard." I turned around and stormed off to our room. Very much agree with this person right here. Winston Churchill She maybe deserves the benefit of the doubt. What she did was so horrible. I want to know how shes going to deal with her friends going forward. How much more reassurance do you need? That's only for me and my wife to know. She does have a right to talk to you about it, and you with her. People aren't accepting where I live either. I could only imagine how crap you feel right now. Listen, Ive been a shit-faced alcoholic in my early 20s. Their partners undoubtedly know about you. People are weak sometimes. Sorry you had to deal with this man, your wife sucks. Now, this is fine! She also needs to put her friends in their place or look for better friends. Never stay with someone because of the kids and don't ban alcohol from your spouse this is terrible advice. I hope you are able to get marriage counseling and find a way through this wether it ends with you together or not. How could you ever trust this person again. There were 3 friends with her. Take the space you need & honor your feelings. At the very least there's some trust work that will need to be done to rebuild some things. 1.) It doesn't matter how private it is, or if they say they don't, they talk. Maybe things that we say passively just to get our friends to laugh and joke, but arent meant to be taken seriously. Take your time, make sure you heal on your timeline not hers. You deserve so much better than this. I was going to say something identical. Im sorry dude but girlfriends have secrets and Im pretty sure that there are conversations youve had that youd be ashamed for your wife to have heard. German Husband let Young Boy Fuck his Wife in Threesome 14:30. Itll be hurtful to both of you for a long time and you probably both need therapy but if you truly do love each other, itll be worth it. Here are some of my favorite quotes (I collect them). The thing that's most revolting is that she'd hang you out to dry just to agree with her mates. Please think about going to individual counseling as well as couples counseling! Id also like to see those fun-o-phobes pack their bags and get out of your wifes life. Seems like she might have played along a little too much to sound cool to her friends. There's a lot that isn't adding up about her explanation to you. Posing with her Dutch-born man, the 29-year-old . Thats her game, and I suggest therapy and also congratulate you, my dude, on taking it so calmly. She was shitfaced when she admitted your sexuality, was pressured to mock your sexuality by her terrible friends, and she didn't actually mean to completely fucking demean you sexually. 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